ever want to leave your wife? - DIYMA Car Audio Forum

13 Hours Ago	? #1
? DIYMA freshman Join Date: May 2007 Location: ct Posts: 244 Thanks: 1 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts	Well, nice surprise this thanksgiving. I find out that after 10 years, 2 beautiful kids, and risking it all on a house and investment property, my wife has been unfaithful. She says it happened a couple of years back or so, when we were at the lowest point of our relationship. Things were really rough then. She says it happened only one time. Regardless, after being lied to, how can I believe that? First off, I can't. If it happened once, I have to believe it was more. Second, even if it was only once, doesn't matter. One time, 100 times, one partner, a hundred partners. Doesn't matter. It's the same thing. And the worst part, we went though the last couple of years, with her knowing this, and never telling me. Now I have to decide whether to forgive her, or sell my properties, take my kids, and leave. Wonderful fucking holiday. And even worse, I have struggled so hard these past couple of years to improve our life, and our relationship. And got to such a high point that it's never been. Physically, emotionally, etc. Or so I thought. What the fuck was I working so hard for? A lie? What the fuck. Just - what the fuck.
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13 Hours Ago	? #5
? DIYMA freshman Join Date: May 2007 Location: ct Posts: 244 Thanks: 1 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts	I asked her. I had a funny feeling, don't know why. But it was nagging at me. And we had always had the kind of relationship, or at least I thought, where we could ask each other anything. So I did. She tried to beat around the bush, but when push came to shove, came clean. I know when, how, and I even know who. And I know how to find them. And it's so goddamn hard to not do that. She does regret it. And that I believe. My question is, does it matter? Honestly, somehow I wasn't surprised, and didn't get that "oh shit" feeling inside. Just anger. Don't know what to do now. I honestly have never been with another woman during our relationship. Not even a kiss. I honestly don't even know if i've ever even had a chance to cheat, My love was such that even if I did, I would have never seen it. My blinders were on, and and advances by another woman would neevr have even been recognized by me. But she meets a guy for drinks. He buys her a couple, asks her to come home with him, and she says yes. While i'm at home watching the kids thinking she's out with friends. And she says she didn't know it was gonna happen, but I say, then why the fuck were you there? What the fuck.
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13 Hours Ago	? #6
? DIYMA Loyalist Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: 314 Posts: 3,598 Thanks: 21 Thanked 71 Times in 67 Posts	Quote: Did you find out on your own, or did she tell you herself? I know that if I found out on my own, I wouldn't ever be able to trust them again. But, if she told you because she honestly felt she had to because of the guilt, I might consider forgiving her. Its one thing for her to tell right after, as she prob felt bad about it, but years later, it wouldnt matter to me if she told me or I found out. Looking me in my face daily, holding something back like that for years would not be tolerated on my part. I wouldnt ever give any person a second chance that cheated on me, second chances on other thing, but never that, no matter the time frame I was told. Respect yourself, she obviously didnt respect you through all that. I would be crushed, but I would pick myself back up and move on. OP, I am sorry to hear about your situation.
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12 Hours Ago	? #8
? DIYMA freshman Join Date: May 2007 Location: ct Posts: 244 Thanks: 1 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts	Thanks, guys. And I just don't know what to do, or if I can forgive, or even pick myself up. It's a fucking joke. I've put up with so much shit from people, and every time, knew that I could come home to warmth, safety, and caring. Now that's gone too. What the fuck. Again.
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